This blog
post is an invitation to step into the emotional journey of a missionary for a
brief moment.
I will soon
celebrate the 2.5 year milestone of living here in New Zealand. With each hardship overcome and each victory
celebrated in daily experience, I am finding that I become more deeply attached
to the people of New Zealand, especially to those within my sphere of influence
in Whangarei. That means that with every heart connection
comes a responsibility, and to even conceive of leaving feels like a betrayal. (Don’t
worry, I’m not thinking of leaving, just sharing some inner thoughts with you.)
The Lord has widened my circles, expanded my ministry in ways I never could
have dreamed up on my own, and blessed me greatly.
There are
even times when I dare to use the word “home” in association with this funny
coastal town at the top of the bottom of the world. Nothing could ever replace where my
foundations were first laid in Olathe, Kansas, but I am grateful for the sense
of familiarity that I now feel here in Whangarei.
I stand in
awe of what God has done.
Vivid memories of my first weeks here still linger in
the corners of my mind. Oh how I longed for that “someday down the track” when
I would feel connected, when I would actually have friends and feel settled. The
hard chairs of the airport were more comfortable for me than the soft bed in
this new foreign place with foreign people.
At least at the airport, there existed it a vain hope that I was not far
from a vessel capable of returning me to my hometown, back to familiarity and
friendship. But . . . the call of God was stronger and I knew
that those options could not continue to reside in my thoughts. A hard lump clogged my throat and my heart
ached as I acknowledged the fact that my new “hometown” would become a no-fly
zone; there was no turning back.
I ached for the day when things wouldn’t be so
difficult and loneliness wouldn’t be my constant companion. All I wanted to do
those first few weeks was to find ways to keep myself busy so that I could pass
the time and get more days, weeks, and months “under my belt”. I struggled to consider the needs of others,
because quite frankly, at that point just feeling a sense of personal normalcy
was my goal. Selfish I know, but that’s
the truth. I needed milestones to celebrate, things to
validate my purpose for being here.
These milestones would also serve as concrete evidence that God had
indeed taken me through . . . and could be trusted to do so in the future.
I can
remember calling on the name of Jesus with each breath in and out, relying on
Him to complete every cycle of respiration.
I was that desperate. Walking the streets of Whangarei, I was on a
mission to discover what this town was made of. I spent hours each day scouring
the city, locating the staples like supermarkets and shops, parks and safe
walking tracks. I befriended op shop
owners and store clerks, volunteered at the Salvation Army and did whatever I
could to fill my need for friendship. I also looked for employment outside the
church, of which there was none at the time.
Time. All things would take
time. I wanted to feel settled, normal,
productive and competent NOW (then). . .but that would take time. I wanted to not feel lonely NOW.. . but that
would take time. I wanted to know my way
around town NOW. .. but that would take
time.
At night, my
prayers were like S.O.S signals to God, requests that he’d somehow relay the
message to my family back home that I was distraught and needed prayer. And he
did. Time and again I would receive
e-mails that someone had awakened in the middle of the night with a sense that
my heart was in need. What a kind and gracious God.
That was
then.
This is now.
Now I’m 2.5
years “down the track”. In the grand
scheme of eternity’s timeline, this is but a blip, barely
noticeable. But like I said before, I
need milestones to celebrate. Now my
life is so full, so fulfilling. Doing
life here feels normal and familiar. I do know how to navigate the city, and
much of the north island for that matter.
Good friends are aplenty and the work I do as a pastor, coach, and youth
worker is important. Homesickness visits less frequently these days and when it
does, I quickly say good-bye and send it on it’s way.
This is not to say that life is perfect here or that I do not continue to face new challenges and struggles. That would be a lie. But this IS a tribute to the God whose mercies have been new for me every morning thus far, and whom I can trust to do the same in the future.